Adjusted Mutuality - mutuality that is adjusted for imbalanced power dynamics

Burnout

• burnout is caused by putting in effort, but making no progress

Communal Boundaries - considering both person's needs and prioritizing whoever’s needs are more important.

• “Given my current state, what can I offer?”
• are context-dependent; otherwise, they are walls.
• not meant to protect the self; they are meant to protect a relationship.
• With communal boundaries, we show up for a friend in crisis because we practice mutuality. We zoom out to assess the friendship. We ask ourselves, if we consider both our needs, whose are more urgent?

Dimorphous Expression - Expression of hybrid categorically positive and typical negative expressions, usually in association with intense positive feelings

• E.G. Cute Aggression; Happy Crying

Mutuality - a style of relating, characterized by zooming out to consider others’ needs alongside our own.

• a telltale sign of ego strength, secure attachment, and, thus, authenticity.
• not meant to protect the self; they are meant to protect a relationship.

Negative Expression of a Positive Affection - Contextually expressing positive affection through phrases or actions that would semantically be negative.

• E.G. Teasing a friend for their success, via insults. Ribbing, jibe, pulling one's leg, messing with, banter, roasting.

Philosophical Zombie - a person, exactly like a person, but has no consciousness. They are a a perfect machine of receiving inputs and simulating outputs..

• You may be a philosophical zombie, but it's not useful to think about yourself as a philosophical zombie.
• The study of psychology and sociology is the study of those inputs and outputs.
  It is useful to think about others as philosophical zombies.

Sthira - refers to stability, intent, and strength. Etymologically it arises from the root stha, which means “to stand, to be firm”.

Sukha - refers to comfort, ease, and openness, and the literal meaning is “good space,” from the root words su (good) and kha (space).

Tsundoku - (積ん読) the phenomenon of acquiring reading materials but letting them pile up in one's home without reading them.

Sources

Adjusted Mutuality
Source: Franco PhD, Marisa G.. Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends (p. 164). Penguin Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.

Communal Boundaries
Source: Franco PhD, Marisa G.. Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends (p. 227). Penguin Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.

Dimorphous Expression
Source: Aragón, O. R., Clark, M. S., Dyer, R. L., & Bargh, J. A. (2015). Dimorphous Expressions of Positive Emotion: Displays of Both Care and Aggression in Response to Cute Stimuli. Psychological Science, 26(3), 259-273. https://doi.org/10.1177/0956797614561044
From https://clarkrelationshiplab.yale.edu/sites/default/files/files/Psychological Science-2015-Aragón-259-73.pdf

Mutuality
Source: Franco PhD, Marisa G.. Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends (p. 147). Penguin Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.

Negative Expression of a Positive Affection
Source: Video "Why Self Love Isn't Enough", Dr. Alok Kanojia, Channel: HealthyGamerGG
From: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zFfED-M0FcU

Philosophical Zombie
Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Philosophical_zombie

Sthira
Source: https://www.ekhartyoga.com/articles/practice/sthira-and-sukha-finding-balance-on-and-off-the-mat

Sukha
Source: https://www.ekhartyoga.com/articles/practice/sthira-and-sukha-finding-balance-on-and-off-the-mat

Tsundoku
Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tsundoku